The more you love your choices, the less you need others to.



         You have to make a choice between what is right, and what is easy.
-Albus Dumbledore

      This year has been such a change for me for the good and for the bad. It has opened my eyes to things I never thought were possible. I had to stop letting people who do so little for me control my mind and feelings in order to learn the inner peace I had in myself. I have learned that people are only going to do what you allow them to do and that means taking full advantage of you.  I always want to be the person that people can rely on, the person that when somebody wants to vent to they know they can call me, when they are feeling down, they know I will cheer them up, when they fell unappreciated and unloved, I can can make them feel like the most special person in the world for being exactly who they are.  Making others feel loved and happy are very important to me. I have said it time and time again I would rather have others feel happy than relieving my own joys. This is where my posts starts, a message to all those who feel stuck, unloved, frustrated, lonely, undeceive…..


             It is not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness priority. It's necessary. It always seems so important to us as people, especially us ladies to always take care of others before we take care of ourselves. I have seen my mother to do it plenty of times. The relationship you have with yourself will define the relationships you have with others. Yes, it is ok to feel some days unappreciated, but only you and the power of God can change that. The decision is only yours. Growth and change is painful but nothing is as painful as staying somewhere where your heart doesn’t want to. They say everything in life is a reflection of a choice you have made. If you want a different result, make another choice. People often forget that it is their choice how they want to live their life. We have the choice to make our life miserable or make it a great life. We need to remember everything we do in life is a choice, all day, every day, who we talk to, where we sit, what we say, and how we say it. Our lives become defined by our choices. It’s as simple and as complex as that and very, very powerful. When something bad happens you have three choices; you can either let it define you, let it destroy you, or it can make you a stronger person. I leave you with this may your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears.
Love and Blessings
Ash

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